Some conversations don’t just stay in your mind, they settle into your body. This one with Erina Oliver was one of those. Her journey into deep healing, self-trust, and intuitive service reminded me that transformation doesn’t always start with grand gestures. Often, it begins with a moment of clarity, a nudge from within, or a quiet act of listening to what your body is asking for.
Erina’s work is rooted in the belief that healing isn’t about fixing, it’s about remembering. Remembering that wholeness is already within us. Remembering that the body speaks in energy, and that symptoms are invitations to pay attention. Remembering that joy is possible, even after years of living with trauma, illness, or internalised shame.
She walks alongside women as they reconnect with their truth, not by overpowering the symptoms, but by softening into their wisdom.
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Healing the Inner and Outer Relationships
Erina shared how so much of her work is about restoring connection, between the inner and outer worlds, the seen and unseen, the body and the environment, the self and others. She’s spent decades learning to listen to the subtle language of energy, and it’s this deep listening that helps her clients feel truly seen.
Her approach is holistic, grounded in a deep understanding of how trauma and disconnection manifest across the body, relationships, food, work, and emotions. Every symptom is seen not as a flaw, but as a message.
Erina spoke openly about her own experiences with chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, IBS, and autoimmune conditions, and how, through energetic healing, self-awareness, and emotional recalibration, she became symptom-free. Not because she rejected those parts of her experience, but because she learned to love and understand them.
She also offered powerful truths about victim and bully dynamics, how often, those we label as one or the other are both responding to the same thing: a deep sense of powerlessness. When we bully ourselves, we mirror what we’ve been taught. When we feel victimised, we may withdraw, shrink, or blame. Both are coping strategies rooted in survival. But when we learn to honour our needs, hold ourselves with kindness, and communicate with clarity, we can rewrite those patterns.
Language Matters—Especially with the Body
One of the most potent parts of our conversation was about language. Erina invites her clients to shift how they speak about their bodies and their experiences. Instead of saying “my depression” or “my anxiety,” she encourages phrases like:
- “I’m experiencing symptoms of depression”
- “My body is showing me a pattern”
- “I’m noticing something that wants to be understood”
This may seem small, but it creates space. It reminds the nervous system that what’s happening isn’t who you are, it’s just what you’re currently noticing. And that shift in language opens the door to transformation.
She also spoke about learning to refer to her body in a way that acknowledges its sacred role as a vehicle, rather than an object to control or criticise. These hands. This body. These eyes I’ve been blessed with. There’s reverence in that shift. And it’s something we can all practice, daily.
The Digestive and Immune Systems as Mirrors
Erina explained that the digestive and immune systems are deeply affected by unresolved emotional patterns. When we feel disconnected, unworthy, or under attack, our systems can reflect that. From food sensitivities to chronic inflammation, these expressions aren’t failures. They’re messages.
She offered a powerful insight:
- The digestive system loses its ability to discern what’s nourishing when we don’t trust ourselves.
- The immune system either overreacts or under-responds when we are overwhelmed or energetically under-resourced.
- Self-bullying, lack of boundaries, and internalised shame can become physical symptoms over time.
But when we restore communication, when we stop bullying ourselves and start treating our bodies with care and curiosity, those systems begin to balance. Energy returns. Symptoms soften. And healing becomes possible again.
You Are Allowed to Change Direction
One of the biggest takeaways from this conversation was the permission to shift, gently, radically, or subtly, when something no longer feels aligned. Erina shared how she stayed in a job for 10 years past burnout, because it felt safe. It wasn’t until the universe nudged her with a series of rejections that she finally said, That’s it. I’m done.
Since then, she’s built a business rooted in spiritual connection, deep listening, and joy. And she reminds us that even the smallest changes, saying no to something, honouring a nudge, allowing a new perspective, can lead to transformation.
You don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to stick to one path forever. You’re allowed to outgrow, to evolve, to pivot. And it can be safe to do so.
Final Reflections
Healing isn’t a straight line. It doesn’t ask you to be perfect, it asks you to be present. To listen. To honour what’s showing up, without judgment.
You are not your symptoms. You are not your past. You are a living, breathing, evolving being, and your body is on your side.
If you’ve been holding heaviness, fighting old patterns, or simply trying to find a softer way forward, this is your reminder that healing is possible. That you’re not alone. And that you’re allowed to speak to yourself with love.
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